Find Your Gold

We all want to know what we’re good at. We want to know who we are and what our gifts are. And we want to know how to use our gifts in meaningful ways.

I have found, both for myself and my clients, that our greatest gifts and our greatest challenges are two sides of the same coin.

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One Life to Live

September is up and running (and almost over)! The new fall schedule is launched and a sense of meaningful productivity has replaced the spaciousness of summer.

But a harmonious and fulfilled life includes both spaciousness and meaningful productivity. If you are like me, sometimes the productivity leans towards robotic and your heart begins to feel stymied.

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Complacency’s a Killer

I’ve always been a goal person. When I was a younger adult my goals were big and splashy and included traveling to faraway lands for months at a time or pursuing adventuresome jobs and advanced degrees so I could be a part of big changes.

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Time to Get Off the Hamster Wheel

Feeling chaotic, stressed, and way too busy has become as comfortable as our favorite old sneakers. The sneakers may be stinky, with holes in the toes and very little arch support, but they are so familiar, they fit our feet without rubbing, and have worked well enough so far!

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The Cost of Busy

Everyone seems so busy these days! It’s the new norm. According to scientific time studies, American women spend more hours working and parenting today than we did 50 years ago. And men are feeling the squeeze more too. We’re not making it up. We are busy! What’s the cost of all this busy? Maybe you feel depleted and adrift. You are always juggling multiple balls, shifting tasks from home care, to caring for others, to producing professional results, to planning the social calendar a week in advance, and so on.

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React? Or Respond?

Balance is the goal, right? We strive for work-life balance, balanced checkbook, balanced diets. Like it or not, if you are reading this, you probably live with the first world dilemma of unending choice.

Life rarely achieves a balanced equilibrium (and if it does, it doesn’t seem to last!) For me, and many of my clients, life is more multidimensional and dynamic than two opposing forces steadying each other. Striving for balance can sometimes feel like a defeating task where you are at the mercy of an overwhelming number of life circumstances and situations that just can’t be won. This is one manifestation of victim mentality: life is being done to you, and you have no control or efficacy. Not a very powerful or satisfying perspective. The bottom line is that we always have a choice.

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Healthy Priorities

Personal well-being is not a game that can be won. There is no finish line to eating healthily, nurturing supportive relationships, or connecting spiritually. . .self-care is, quintessentially, a life-long journey.

Which may be why many people (including me!) have so much resistance around prioritizing consistent action for a holistically healthy self. I like tasks I can cross off my list and projects that come to a celebratory end. But so much of life requires daily awareness, intention, and continuous innovation. How can you create sustainable, consistent health choices?

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You Are More Than What You Do

The socially accepted question when we meet new people is usually “so, what do you do?” Have you ever felt trapped by that question? Is what you do an open door to share yourself with the world? Or is it a frame that rigidly defines how you relate to, or express yourself.

Maybe sharing about what you do is a welcome invitation when things are going well: you’ve landed the job, or gotten the award. But none of us are winning awards every day! So what about the days when we’re in between jobs, or not liking our lives very much? In those moments, what you do is an utterly inadequate and frustrating expression of you.

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Time IS On Your Side

‘Tis spring,  the season when the bees get busy! I wonder if the bees feel stressed as they buzz from one flower to the next? Or do they feel motivated and inspired as they go about their important work? How about you? Are your days full of busy buzzing, but lack clear direction and a sense of purpose?  Do you give and serve and do more because that seems to be what life requires? Or do you choose your life?

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To Desire Is Human. . .

Do you want more from life?

Do you somehow make up that it is wrong to want more? More ease, more fulfillment, more connection, more adventure. . .

How loud is the voice in your head that asks “Why can’t I just be content with my pretty good life? Am I being selfish? Too big for my britches?”

Thank you for wanting more. I think wanting is a core attribute of being human. We desire. We dream. We want.

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